Style in Transition: You Deserve to Feel Good Now

The “When I…” Trap

Often when I mention to people that I am a style coach, so often I am met with, “I’d love to do something like that when….”

I’ve lost weight. Started a new job. The kids are older. Life is less hectic. I feel more like myself again….

This way of thinking is so common and completely normal, it’s a form of self-protection and wanting to feel ‘ready’.

However it can also leave us feeling very stuck, dissatisfied and disconnected with ourselves.

Waiting doesn’t make the discomfort go away; it just leaves you standing in front of a wardrobe full of clothes that don’t work for your current life or body.

And that can feel deflating, every single day.

Life Is Full of Transitions

Bodies change, lifestyles shift - it’s all part of being human, and women certainly go through many transitions in their lifetime, whether that be due to body changes, becoming a mother, changing career, starting a business, starting the menopause, or simply growing (emotionally, not just physically!)

Here’s the thing, style doesn’t need to be put on hold for some future version of you. It should support you through the now, the person you are becoming or have transitioned into. Your wardrobe can support you through these transitions, rather than holding you in a version of yourself that no longer fits.

The Emotional Weight of Clothes That Don’t Fit

Holding onto clothes that don’t feel good can be demoralising and quietly chip away at self-esteem.

There are lots of reasons why clothes no longer feel like they used to; weight gain is a common factor, but it can also be weight loss due to illness, body shape changes due to pregnancy or age, or simply an emotional transition whereby the clothes no longer feel like you - and often, it is a multiple of these factors combined.

Sometimes, it’s just about honouring who you are now, not wishing for a past or future version of yourself. So many women delay investing in themselves and their style until they feel “worthy” again - let’s flip that script; dressing in a way that feels good can actually help to reconnect you with yourself and help you to evolve into this new version of you.

It Doesn’t Mean Starting from Scratch

Often, there is a panic that comes with accepting these changes, not just from an emotional standpoint but a practical one too.

“I can’t afford to buy a whole new wardrobe!”
”I hate shopping, it is just going to make me feel worse…”

But hey, you don’t need a brand-new wardrobe - starting with a few tweaks (styling, tailoring, upcycling, letting go of some of the guilt clothes) can shift how you feel.

This is where sustainable styling shines; making the most of what you have while updating mindfully.

You deserve to feel stylish right now

Take a moment to reflect on how it would feel to leave the house feeling good… great even.

Picture yourself walking into a social event, the office, the supermarket, feeling more confident and present - wouldn’t that feel better?

Can you sense that lighter version of yourself? The one who has let go of the stress and guilt?

Dressing for yourself, and how you deserve to feel is not frivolous or shallow - it is a form of self-care.

If you’re fed up of waiting to feel good in your clothes - you’re not alone. My Style Reset Call is the perfect place to start, it’s a gentle, no-pressure way to get clarity.

We’ll talk about what’s changed, what’s working, and where to go next - so you can stop waiting and start dressing with confidence again!